From time to time it’s quite easy to feel low or lacking the confident feeling. One day you can feel like Kanye, the next, Drake. However, there are some simple steps you can take to remind yourself that you are the Queen of your world and it’s time to nip that self-doubt in the bud.
Sometimes it’s something as simple as inspirational quote on your mirror or wall. Yeah, they get a lot of stick on Instagram but there’s not one time where I’ve read one and it’s made me feel worse. Surround yourself with uplifting energy and conquering the world won’t seem so tough. If anything, the odd inspirational quote can be the kick up the bum you need and a friendly reminder that not everything in the world is so bad after all.
It doesn’t even matter if it’s the smallest thing ever, if it’s significant to you, then it’s important. Ran a mile? Write it on the list. Made an appointment you’ve been putting off? Put it on the list. Helped someone in need? On the list. Managed to tan own back? Put that baby on the list! Something as simple as this is scientifically proven to release endorphins in your brain; instantly making you feel better and happier about your life.
It’s easy to think that due to the amount of people on earth and it’s size that we are completely inadequate, but always remember, if you weren’t here, the world would be a different place. Nothing goes unnoticed and there are things that you do that people have never thanked you for but will always be grateful for. Like when you tell someone that they have toilet paper on the back of their shoe on a night out. You the real MVP.
That Instagram model whose stomach is flat and tanned, hair is perfect, teeth are whiter than Taylor Swift, and you compare yourself to on a daily basis? Yeah she wakes up with morning breath too. The couple that are so in love with each other that it’s actually sickening and photograph themselves in the most exotic and romantic places? Probably have really boring sex and secretly can’t stand each other. And I know we are forbidden to talk about it but Beyoncé most definitely passes wind. Everyone is a human being. With the right lighting, camera angle and filter, we can portray an image of ourselves that’s completely untrue. We are literally trying to attain something that isn’t physically attainable. We need to give ourselves a goddamn break and realise that beauty comes in all different shapes and sizes. I mean, let’s take Ben and Jerry’s ice cream for example, all different flavours and yet all so fucking delicious in their own little way. Imagine if society told you that you could only enjoy baked Alaska, when cookie dough was just as amazing? I’d be fuming to say the least.
Laugh at, delete it and then never think about it again. I wont be on my deathbed thinking you know what really helped me have a truly beautiful and fulfilling life? Listening to all those irrelevant opinions about me. People’s opinions don’t pay the bills. You don’t owe anything to anybody. Give off good vibes, be kind and bathe in that good karma. You just do you.
A common excuse for not volunteering is “I just don’t have the time”. Well let’s say you check Snapchat, Instagram and Facebook maybe 5 times a day for 5 minutes each? That equates to 1 hour and 15 minutes a day. That’s 8 hours and 45 minutes a week. That’s 35 hours a month… you can see where I’m going with this. (I know, it almost made me do a little sick in my mouth when I realized how many countless hours I spend looking at Bootea models on Instagram too) Even doing 1 hour a week will not only help someone in need but be good for your soul too. We weren’t put on the planet to be selfish and die alone (Even though I can’t even get a text back so am doomed to die alone and be found half eaten by my 27 feral cats) Doing something with no financial gain can give you something money can’t buy, it gives you purpose and sight to see the wider picture.
I swear if doctors prescribed walking up a mountain instead of antidepressants then a lot more people would be a lot happier. I know sometimes getting up and getting out can feel like the worst thing in the world especially when you have 3 seasons of Pretty Little Liars to catch up on but we are human beings. We evolved from spending our time outdoors and breathing fresh air into our lungs. When you exercise, your brain releases endorphins, adrenaline, serotonin and dopamine. These chemicals all work together to make you feel good. In addition, after exercising you may feel a sense of accomplishment and your muscles will relax deeper because of the workout – easing tension and strain. And let’s be honest, we all know the best revenge on an ex is getting super hot and fit.
Fear is probably one of the most frustrating things about being a human being. If you suffer from crippling anxiety then obviously it’s not going to be magically cured by reading this article. However, the brain should be treated like any other part of the body. You want a slamming ass, you gotta squat daily. Want abs you can grate cheese on (that will most definitely be put on a stuffed crust pizza later) then you gotta do sit-ups till you feel the burn. Want Jennifer Aniston arms, then you must lift those weights like you lift those Oreos. It’s about maintaining. If you feed your brain with a negative thought, it will repeat the pattern over and over again. You feed your brain with a positive thought and you gotta keep feeding it until it becomes second nature. Hello, you are a beautiful amazing human and the chances of you even existing are like a billion to 1 (Ok I don’t know the official stat but the sheer fact that any of us are here is a damn miracle in itself) You’ve survived 100% of your worst days and you are kicking ass motherfucker! You deserve to feel good about yourself. Take small steps to conquering a fear. Even if that fear is tiny, make that fear your bitch. No more controlling you, that fear needs to shut the fuck up and sit the fuck down because the queen has spoken, and that fear is gonna learn today!
We live in a society that profits from your self-doubt. Stop buying products that will change your physical appearance and start investing in yourself. Stop craving Instagram likes to boost your self-esteem and worth. Buy books, read, educate yourself, and become empowered. You have too much potential to be told what to look like and what to think, seriously, you are a pink starburst, stop letting people make you think you are a yellow starburst.
Till next time, keep it sassy…